It is believed that tears are the lot of the weaker sex, a manifestation of excusable female sentimentality. A man should not cry, otherwise he seems to be not a man - because in the absence of tears it is customary to see true strength. What is losing and gaining a stronger sex, trying to restrain itself?
Crying is needed for both men and women
When nature gave people the opportunity to respond to stress with tears, it did not divide them into men and women. Scientists have long proven that crying is necessary for the survival of our species. Harmful substances formed in the body during emotional outbreaks are “washed out” with the help of tears.
This convenient mechanism works equally for both sexes. More precisely, it was before. In the ancient world, society did not limit men to the right to sob from the heart. In all myths, great heroes and even gods openly shed tears over their deceased loved ones, they could feel emotional while listening to beautiful music or beautiful verses, cried with anger and powerlessness - in general, they expressed emotions as only women are allowed to do so now.
For hundreds of years, men have not become insensitive at all! They still experience pain, and rage, and frustration, and deep sorrow, and trepidation, that's just the "extra" emotions the strong sex is invited to keep with them. And they try not to cry, demonstrating restraint and "courageous" behavior approved by others. But all suppressed emotions remain inside, accumulate and ... the statistics are known to you: men live much less than women, more often suffer from cardiovascular diseases, more often die from heart attacks and strokes.From tears that have not been shed, many suffer from insomnia, lose their appetite or, conversely, randomly eat everything and gain weight. And headaches, and a stomach ulcer, and a whole series of diseases are acquired by men on a nervous basis.
Tears improve your mood
American scientists recently discovered that tears improve mood. Crying out is the fastest and easiest way to bring back positive thinking. Moreover, after crying our mind clears up, it is easier for us to solve problems that at first seemed insoluble. Often, male restraint in the adequate expression of negative emotions leads to problems in relationships.
How to relieve stress without tears?
Sport
Not necessarily professional and certainly not life threatening. Buy a joint subscription to a fitness center or pool to relieve accumulated stress. Hang a punching bag at home: in a fit of anger, all family members can pound it. This is useful primarily for men, but you and the children will not hurt. And if you want romance, persuade your spouse to do double Ghanaians. Fast hustle, passionate tango, classic waltz ... And it’s useful for the figure, and relieves stress, and, like any other hobby, improves relations.
Traffic
Daily walks (ideally jogging) are useful to all family members. Children are distracted from the computer, they help you get rid of extra pounds, and for your husband they become discharge.
Sleep
Prevention is the best way to deal with stress. A person who has slept well is more resistant to any negative external influences.The average man needs only 6-8 hours of sleep, and it is advisable that at least 2 of them he could oversleep before midnight. By the way, early retreat is also useful for women - in order to preserve youth and beauty for a long time.
Relaxing treatments
A good massage, as well as a bath (in the absence of contraindications) and spa treatments are the best ways to relieve stress. And although the stronger sex rarely tries to innovate in the beauty industry, most men like the traditional cedar barrel and wellness massage. In addition, spas usually have a pleasant relaxing atmosphere: a cozy interior, meditative music, green tea during breaks. This is no worse than crying!
Bath
Fitovanna or bath with aromatic oils is a great way to “wash off” the negative accumulated during the day. Water itself has an excellent relaxing effect, and herbal decoctions and infusions will help enhance the effect. Plants with a calming and relaxing effect: needles, valerian, motherwort, oregano, sweet clover, wormwood, linden, mint, hawthorn, hop cones. Aromatic oils with a similar effect: chamomile, bergamot, lavender, neroli, rose, jasmine, lemon balm, sandalwood.
And yet, despite all of the above methods of dealing with stress, it is impossible to think of anything better than tears donated by nature itself. If you manage to show your loved one that you understand and accept his right to feelings and emotions, if he can trust you enough not to hide his tears, this will extend his life and make her much happier.
